To a pair of lips that are listening properly, a kiss will tell their owner everything the other one is saying. "I love you," "I am sorry, but I don't like you that way," I'm not in this for the long haul, I only want you tonight," "I am still unsure about you," "I'm starting to like you," "I miss you," and my personal favorite, "you're adorable, but it's never going to happen." This is, of course, not an all-inclusive list. Just as I cannot list all of the words in the English language, nor can I list kisses (even if I had the time, I wouldn't, finding these things out for oneself is much more gratifying).
As a man, I suspect that women are as keenly tuned into kissing as they seem to be with body language and tone of voice. My first kiss was somewhere around eleven years ago, and have only recently begun to discover this. Like Tone of Voice, and Body Language before it, I've learned that kissing is a much more effective form of communication than the written or spoken word (as a writer I was a bit bummed out to discover that), and more importantly, that I'd been sending significantly wrong messages to people that I've kissed, in some cases. I'm sure I've ended relationships because I wasn't communicating effectively through my kisses.
I have had the theory posed to me that the eyes are the gateway to the soul, but I have to disagree. A person can mask their eyes, can hide themselves from even the most intimate observer. I should know, I've made a relationship career out of hiding behind my eyes. But a kiss. . . A kiss is a much more intimate form of contact, and much more honest than simple eye contact, or even sex, sometimes. I know it sounds absurd, but it's absolutely true.
Admittedly, I might be full of shit, but next time you kiss someone, observe everything about the kiss (but don't let yourself enjoy it any less), and maybe you'll see a little bit of what I'm saying. Of course, you might find out that I'm full of shit. Either way, I'd love to hear some of your thoughts and experiences on the matter.